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		<title>First Year Thoughts</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Apr 2009 04:18:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>It has now been one full year since I had to &#8220;press the reset button of life&#8221;. I can&#8217;t say that the past year has been easy. It has been rough. Terribly rough. But it is a phase of my life that I must push through, regardless if I want to or not.   I&#8217;m writing [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It has now been one full year since I had to &#8220;press the reset button of life&#8221;. I can&#8217;t say that the past year has been easy. It has been rough. Terribly rough. But it is a phase of my life that I must push through, regardless if I want to or not.   I&#8217;m writing this posting to talk about things that I have learned over the past year and some of the areas that I need to improve on.</p>
<p>Things that I have learned:</p>
<ul>
<li>That it is possible to make changes even when everything seems so bleak, so hopeless.  Change was necessary to keep from drowning in pain and suffering.  Change is not easy.  There were times that I practically hated myself for making the same &#8220;destructive&#8221; decisions because they were too comfortable. </li>
<li>I have learned that everyone has a purpose.  One person can impact a countless number of lives.  I think back to the number of people who I had influenced over the year and I was staggered by the implications.  Friends, family, enemies, and even people whom I have never met were impacted by my existence.  This thought alone, as strange as it may seem, helped me on the path of &#8220;coping&#8221; (I can&#8217;t say recover because I haven&#8217;t recovered and won&#8217;t do so for some time).</li>
<li>Life can and will be cruel.  I learned this lesson the hard way.  It&#8217;s not something that I didn&#8217;t know beforehand, but I &#8220;noticed&#8221; it more afterwards.  However, these experiences strengthen us and can positively impact our life.</li>
<li>Relationships in life are important.  Too bad that I completely suck at making and maintaining them.  This is the aspect I need to improve on the most, but one that is dependent on solving other issues of my life first (i.e., self worth).  Also, I need to mention that there have been some very important people in my life the past year who have helped me survive the &#8220;storms of my life&#8221; over the past year and I sincerely thank them for their help.</li>
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<p>Things that I need to improve on:</p>
<ul>
<li>From above, I mentioned &#8220;self worth&#8221;.  I&#8217;m getting better at having a more positive &#8220;self esteem&#8221;, but I&#8217;m not quite there yet.  As I also mentioned, this is hurting me in other aspects of my life.  I need to work on this, but this requires a fundamental change of my personality.</li>
<li>Get out more.  I still stress on the &#8220;getting things done&#8221; phase of life and haven&#8217;t learned to relax yet.  Again, this requires a change in my personality.</li>
<li>I need to get a sense of humor.  I&#8217;m very serious, normally.  If you know me well, you know that it is possible that I can have humor in my life.  But generally that side of me is very reserved.  I&#8217;m normally very serious.  I&#8217;m not a cut-up.  I don&#8217;t seek attention (actually, I tend to run whenever a spotlight is on me).  It&#8217;s this level of discomfort I must resolve.  Again, this is (partially) related to the first required improvement above.</li>
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<p>There are still times in my life when I wonder to myself &#8211; Why?  What&#8217;s the purpose?.  These times are scary.  I&#8217;m happy to say that they come less frequently over the past few months.  Grief sucks.  It is, however, a necessary phase of life that everyone must go through.  And it can be a slow harrowing process.</p>
<p>-more information later-</p>
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		<title>Puppy Love</title>
		<link>http://www.jeffreyrandow.org/archives/2008/06/puppy-love</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Jun 2008 04:29:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>jeffreycentex</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>In case you haven&#8217;t seen my Twitter or Facebook postings, I picked up my 7-week old chocolate lab puppy named Rudy (after my grandfather Rudolph Jaks, and also my father&#8217;s middle name &#8211; Wilburn Rudolph Randow) from a former co-worker last weekend.  This has been an interesting experience due to the fact that this is:</p>
<p>1.  [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In case you haven&#8217;t seen my Twitter or Facebook postings, I picked up my 7-week old chocolate lab puppy named Rudy (after my grandfather Rudolph Jaks, and also my father&#8217;s middle name &#8211; Wilburn Rudolph Randow) from a former co-worker last weekend.  This has been an interesting experience due to the fact that this is:</p>
<p>1.  My first indoor dog.  Well, let me rephrase that.  He stays inside with me at night.  He&#8217;s outside while I am at work.  And that is probably how it will stay.  I eventually would like him to sleep on the foot of my bed, but I am a LONG way from that right now.</p>
<p>2.  Caregiving.  The thoughts of almost everyone who knows me has been that I need a puppy to keep from dwelling on the past.  This ALMOST worked..  I&#8217;m not dwelling as much, but when I do, it goes very deep.</p>
<p>We&#8217;ll see how things progress.  I love the puppy.  I wish he would stop using my finger as it&#8217;s own personal chewing toy, but I&#8217;m starting to break him of that habit.  I took him out walking in the neighborhood in front of my house tonight (I walk with him nightly, but have been varying the route to let him see more) and he got a lot of socializing.  I think that we had about 10 children of various ages come to pet him, three parents, and two other families.  I was getting a bit concerned about finding children for his socialization, but when he is at the &#8220;cute puppy&#8221; age, I guess that isn&#8217;t an insurmountable problem.</p>
<p>In other matters this past week:</p>
<p>1.  I went to church with Stephen today.  I go to church every weekend, but this is the first time I actually went with somebody.  Actually, I picked his church today since the Comal Community Band, of which I am a member, had a &#8220;thank you&#8221; concert for the church for using their facilities for our weekly practice this past month.  Nice service.  Methodist churches are not too bad, but they take a while to get used to.  Also, the fact that we were singing patriotic hymns was also a pleasant experience.</p>
<p>2.  After church, I attended the band wrap-up party for this season.  We do have one more rehersals and two more performances on Friday (July 4), but it made sense to do the wrap party on a non-holiday weekend.  In the past, I wouldn&#8217;t have attended.  However, in an effort to make myself do more, I am forcing myself to leave my comfort zone and do things.  I still need to do more and my to-do list for the summer and fall is still very very long.</p>
<p>3.  Work sucks.  I&#8217;m sorry to be so blunt with that statement, but it&#8217;s the unfortunate truth.  We (me and Stephen) have so much work piled on us between now and August 8 and it will be a daunting task for us to actually finish it all.  So as you can surmise, the stress level has gone up considerably, which is exactly what I do not need at this time.  Oh well&#8230;  I&#8217;m starting to run a countdown clock to August 8 and then want to take a trip after that time.  Plus, I have so much unfinished business that I need to take care of, like probate and other legal matters.</p>
<p>4.  Friends rock.  Another short but profound statement.  I&#8217;m afraid to think of what type of shape I would be in at this point without the bedrock of support from others.  I feel so small, though, in that I haven&#8217;t been the person that I could have been in the past.  I consistently concentrated on issues around me (and my family) and generally ignored everything else externally.  That needs to stop as of now.</p>
<p>In closing I want to add a reminder that you can also keep track of me via Twitter, Friendfeed, or Facebook.  On Twitter and Friendfeed, my alias is JeffreyCentex and you can find me by my name on Facebook. </p>
<p>Thank you for reading and may God bless you and your family!</p>
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